Timoran Synkral ([info]timoran) wrote,
@ 2009-05-01 12:38:00
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Current mood: bitchy

No more crap
Those of you who truly know me (not many of you) know that I'm a dominant personality - not just in bed but everywhere. My way or the highway.

Some people decided that I was not worth a few moments of their time at FCN, even after acting very interested to meet me beforehand. I don't need people like that in my life. I will spend time with people who make it worth my while and engage me. The others will find themselves removed from my friend/contact lists.

Some people view me as a pervert who is only interested in sex. It's a shame that you have rushed to that conclusion, especially since all of the people involved made advances on me FIRST. I regret that you have mistaken my reciprocating in kind as the actions of a slut. You can be assured that in the future I will not be receptive to your advances, lest these accusations continue. Why would I reward someone who does this?

And to the person who made a practical joke of me: I am not laughing. You should be glad I am not (usually) a violent person. It will be best for both of us if we never speak again.

To the small, small number of people who did what they could to make FCN a better con for me, I thank you. I hope to see you again. You will get more of my attention in the future. Those to whom I felt more like a fanboy, not so much.

At future meets and social encounters in general I will just have to be a little bit less patient. If I am not involved in the conversation, what use is there in staying around? I don't live by watching other people talk to one another - I'm either involved or I'm leaving.

If you see me leave a group like this, don't take it personally.

On second thought, go ahead and take it personally.


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[info]hitchhyena
2009-05-01 06:04 pm UTC (link)
This is why I hang out with MUNDANE PEOPLE. They don't want to my butt for sex, they aren't fanboys, infact, most of them are CLUELESS.

I just hope you're feeling better dude, I hate seeing a friend sick. Sorry we had to leave the room on ya, but like shale, I have a real weak stomach, and hearing someone be sick, makes me sick as well, and besides we had told you we were getting a different room cause of my friend in Michigan.

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[info]jaxsonott
2009-05-01 10:19 pm UTC (link)
TJ,

I totally understand where your coming from. But also I feel for you. But that's why i often get to know the person first...that also inculdes furries. Trust me. That's how i roll.

In other words. I honestly don't think about sex all the time. I often talk to people just to get to know them. Since being in a relationship i have to watch my actions now.

Hope that helps out. But if you need someone to vent please give me a call.

Jax

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[info]morning_dragon
2009-05-02 12:24 am UTC (link)
I never know what is going on, but I did drag you into stuff :).

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[info]athauglas
2009-05-02 12:27 am UTC (link)
I'm going to be completely honest with you. We don't know eachother very well at all, but I feel like I owe you at least that much.

It's fine if you're a dominant sort of person. But from my interactions with you I did notice you didn't have much force of personality or free-spiritedness about you. This is a lethal combination.

Simply positioning yourself near people, even if it's at great expense, doesn't entitle you to anything. It's terrible that all you got from your FCN trip was a bad case of swamp-ass, but were you really surprised by how people responded to you? The few times we've spoke, I immediately had the impression that you were a sort of social black hole--a high-maintenance, demanding kind of friend that would rarely, if ever, "jump first." The sort of person that only reacts to stimuli, and wont risk doing anything that doesn't have an immediate payoff.

Forging a lasting, meaningful friendship often means operating at a loss for a while, so to speak. The trick is knowing how to bring the good in somebody out, and when to get out if it doesn't work. As long as you require others to prove their worth, implicitly or explicity, you will be dissapointed and generally alone. And if this post is any indication, that's exactly what you're going to do, but with even less patience than before.

Furry conventions, by the way, are especially awful places to operate this way. Taking a bunch of people that are already somewhat awkward, putting them in a gigantic petri dish, then getting upset when they all clump together according to prexisting relationships, interests, or outright bravery and form a sort of chemical defense around their perimeter is just... well, a waste of time and money. I won't even get into the sexual part of things, except to say that it is plainly obvious in nearly everyone who counts that as one of their main objectives.

Look elsewhere (in less artificial settings), be more patient, take a real chance now and then, and suck it up when you fail. Because you will more often than not, just like everyone else.

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[info]timoran
2009-05-02 12:44 am UTC (link)
"The few times we've spoke, I immediately had the impression that you were a sort of social black hole--a high-maintenance, demanding kind of friend that would rarely, if ever, "jump first." The sort of person that only reacts to stimuli, and wont risk doing anything that doesn't have an immediate payoff."

You rushed to a conclusion based on your first impression. You're exactly the type of person my post is about. Anyone who has spent more than 5 minutes in my presence knows I'm not that way. We've never met in person, have we? How would you know what I'm like in person?

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[info]athauglas
2009-05-02 01:09 am UTC (link)
Yes, we have met in person. I count 3 seperate times, but I could be off. One in particular comes to mind: At AC 2007 or 2008, I found you and Shale and one or two others milling about by the registration line. We got introduced (again). At that time, after 8 hours driving, was happy just to stop moving for a while, and chat idly. So seemed the others, but you're body language suggested you were getting really tired of people talking around you, but not saying anything to you past the initial "hey meng, how goes, what are you up to, etc..." At one point you looked so fed up with it that I nearly said something snarky, maybe with a sports metaphor mixed in. But I didn't.

Do not dismiss first impressions; they are critical in every setting. This, along with what I've already written, is the first impression you left me with. If I seem to be the only one that feels this way, then by all means discard my opinion. I would love to be wrong about you.

But what do I know? I'm just a guy that cared enough to respond at all.

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[info]timoran
2009-05-02 03:00 am UTC (link)
I don't remember you at all. You must have not said a thing to me beyond "hi" and were only interested in talking to Shale. That's how it usually is. If someone won't speak to me when spoken to, and instead just keep talking to their established friends, I don't need to waste my time with them. It sounds like you're that type of person.

It's not my problem to fix your social disorder. I will find decent personable people somewhere else. Maybe it's time to give up on furries.

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